A friend of mine went home sick from work last week with a fever. Things got worse and he went to the emergency room. The doctor had worked in the ER for 20 years and told him he’d never seen anything like this. They both panicked.

The doctor said it might be Sepia, an autoimmune disease that kills a million people per year within hours of being diagnosed. They ran tests. Nothing. My friend sat all alone in the hospital all night wondering if he would ever see the morning.

But he did. The tests came back negative (at hospitals negative test results are actually a positive. I hate hospitals.) The next day was the best day of his life. He woke up and felt lucky to go to work. All the worries that plagued him a few days before had vanished.

It’s funny how that works. How, it takes something horrible to happen to make us realize just how great we have it The majority of lottery winners end up worse off financially than they were before and say how it ruined their lives. Yet, cancer survivors tap into deeper meanings of life and say, “It was the best thing that ever happened to me.”

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A mentor once told me, “Your twenties are for learning. Your thirties are for taking action.” It’s funny I remember that now, the day I turn 30 years old.

I’ve spent some time thinking about what it means to reach this age. So far, it’s been a humbling reminder of how long and short life really is. I’m lucky to have made it this far, yet there’s still so much ahead. When we reach a “milestone birthday” there’s only so much time for reflection before we have to ask, “What do I want the next 5, 10, or even 30 years to look like?”

Throughout my twenties, I made it a habit to write down any quotes or pieces of advice I came across that seemed valuable. Going through those notes now, I’m shocked at how many great pieces of wisdom I’ve collected. Certain pieces I wrote down years ago, but am just now beginning to understand. There are others I wish someone had told me when I turned twenty.

One of my favorite books is Meditations, by Marcus Aurelius. Besides its overwhelming amount of straightforward wisdom, I love the idea that the Emperor of Rome (the most powerful man on Earth back then) sat down each night and wrote advice to himself on how to be a good person.

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When we look at our work, our art, or any value we’re adding to the world, at some point, we have to ask, “Would they miss me if was gone?”

This isn’t a life or death hypothetical. “They” can be customers, “me” can be a product. But regardless of what type of creative space we’re in, we need to know where we stand with our audience.

Ask yourself: “Who’s looking forward to what I do next?” Put another way: “Do I matter or am I being tolerated?”

Because of all the metrics we use to measure success—how much we matter is the most important.

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